WHY DON’T WE GET TIME TO DO THINGS WE LOVE

So, this morning I was talking to Marta and I asked her to start an interesting conversation. Her question was the title of this blog post. I’ve been answering and thinking about this question a lot lately and I was surprised that out of all questions in the world she decided to ask me THIS. Anyway, here is what I have learned and I will break it down for you:

So we have lists, right? Bucket lists, new year’s list etc. We need to first figure out that out of all the things that you’ve written, what all in the list comprises of things that you SHOULD do. For example, maybe you think that you should start eating healthier because your parents are forcing you to or maybe you should go out and socialize more because otherwise you’re a loser. BUT DON’T YOU GET IT!? You don’t want to eat healthier because maybe you already are concious of those things or you don’t want to go out and socialise because you like your own company and you rather read a book than talk to someone. Something’s that we want to do are influenced from an external factor, and those things are something that we never intended to accomplish.

1. DIG DEEPER AND THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU REALLY, REALLY LOVE TO DO?

Ask yourself – what do you love?

2. BAM! YOU WILL HAVE TIME FOR EVERYTHING YOU LOVE TO DO BECAUSE YOU GENUINELY ENJOY IT!

Embrace what you really want to do, what you really love. Otherwise life will give you numerous reasons not to.

The thing about separating the should list and the real list is clarity. Once you have clarity about what all you genuinely love and are willing to make time for them, then I assure you that you will find time to do it.

Take your time.

– Miti

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One thought on “WHY DON’T WE GET TIME TO DO THINGS WE LOVE

  1. Dear Miti,
    I think this is even more true when you are out in ‘the real world.’ Life has a knack for filling out your day with things to do (cleaning this, organizing that, paying this bill, cooking this food, etc), and before you know it all the hours are gone. It is up to you to prioritize. And this is where our parents do know what they’re talking about. Planning and time management are essential. Because, after all, you do have to clean and organize AT SOME POINT, otherwise you’d be living in a cramped, dirty place. As far as the bucket lists and motivation goes. I believe the challenge is to find some INTRINSIC motivation to do those things. For example, I try to eat healthy and exercise because I ride on the bus a bunch, and I see all sorts of people. And honestly, I don’t think I would be happy with myself if one day I woke up and saw that I looked like some of the people I see on the bus. Granted, they might be happy with what they look like and with how healthy they are, but I wouldn’t be. And that’s just it. We each need to really think about what kind of person we want to be. Physically, emotionally, and cognitively, and behave like we think that ideal version of ourselves would behave. Borrowing from Aristotelian Ethics, we all have to have our own phronimos, not only for ethical matters, but for all matters. The motivation to do the things you love to do is not then “because my parents said so” or “because I want to be socially accepted” but “because this is what Ideal Me would do.”

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